Being Authentically You…
How easily do you bring your true self out into the world?
Do you ever feel like you have to wear a mask or hold yourself back in order to be accepted or not make others uncomfortable?
It’s not wrong, it’s natural, to start to mold ourselves into our environment in order to “fit in”, to feel accepted and hopefully loved.
But the catch is, if we are not fully ourselves, I question if we truly feel loved, because it’s less “real”.
So there can be an expectation of feeling loved, but underneath it can feel confusing when we aren’t fully seen.
For me, I recall in my teenage years when I put one of my masks on so I could fit into a new crowd, when my old crowd was no longer there.
I had to become someone “else”, someone more resilient, but not in a healthy way… put all that you knew about yourself in this box, and go be this instead, to be “liked”.
What I thought was acceptance, I realize now was an illusion over the pain I was feeling from being rejected.
It took me years to find and unpack that box again. To surrender the person I thought I had to be, for the person I am.
And it continues to unfold. Even in recent years, I’ve discovered ways I still hide and hold myself back out of fear of rejection.
Resisting expressing my truth, afraid of upsetting someone or trying to be “palatable” to blend into the mix.
I’ve discovered that relationships where you feel accepted, appreciated, and not judged is vital in the recovery of your true self.
People who are willing to see you for who you are today, who invite you to expresses yourself truthfully and actually ask inquiringly to help you reveal your truth within, are like a gentle cloth cleansing and polishing a rare gem.
They help you reveal what’s inside, support the evolution of that growth, and help you see your true beauty.
We begin to discover aspects about ourselves that we haven’t seen in years, didn’t even know where there, or suddenly see new pathways of our potential.
When we open to our authentic truth, amazing things begin to unfold.
Feeling safe to be yourself in supportive relationships first greatly helps finding the courage to be your true self out into the world more fully, though this may have to start with your close relationships.
When we do eventually bring our authentic selves out, it can be hard for people to alter the version of you they had in their mind, but that’s doesn’t mean you should stop.
I admit, it can be uncomfortable meeting relationships that struggle to understand, but sitting with that discomfort actually supports you moving past the old patterns that held you back in the first place.
Not everybody will get you, understand you, or like you, but if you get you, understand you, and like you, how amazing would that feel?
Because embracing your true self is empowering.
Expressing yourself authentically is the most loving thing you can do for yourself.
If you can compassionately accept yourself along the way, you can trust you are walking your path with love.
Start small in safe places with compassionate and supportive people, then in time encourage yourself to expand your light out more brightly in the world around you.
You might be surprised how well you’re actually received.
Who would you be if you could bring your authentic self today more fully into the world?
Do you need help discovering this? Come sit in a safe space with me and explore your inner truth.
Let’s do this together. I’m gently bringing more of my evolving authentic self out every day, I’d love to see you do the same.
With love always 💕
Brenda
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